On Looking Weird in Public

How feeling exposed this week taught me about my privilege

Last week, my family faced a scary choice point. We had to decide whether we wanted to be more public about how we live. It was a really vulnerable feeling. As we sat in our living room, talking about whether or not we wanted to do this, I suddenly realized that I’d been luxuriating in a privilege that many folks can only imagine. And of course, it had been completely invisible to me up till now.

Marty got an email from someone who has a very popular podcast. This person is a friend of ours (“close acquaintance” might be more accurate) and so is well aware of our personal situation. Apparently, her listeners had been asking her to do a show about polyamory, and so we’d popped to mind. In the email, our friend asked Marty whether we would talk about our relationship publicly and if so, would we be willing to come on the show.